Comfort is Your Enemy

Published on February 17, 2011 by Annetta Wilson

Comfort is your enemy.  At a time when many people are looking for anything that can give them a sense of stability and 'the familiar', this seems a strange statement to make.

Think about it.  Does any major change, movement, or progress happen without some degree of irritation or disturbance?

Did you ever grow when things just coasted along?  Or, did major shifts in your life, work or relationships cause you to redefine yourself?

There's a lot of fearful talk, thought and energy in the air lately, especially around money.  Are you observing it or participating in it?  We always have the ability to choose where our thoughts go.

It's easy to be upbeat, pleasant and hopeful when we're comfortable.  However, that 'comfort' can make us lazy.  We become comfortable 'doing' things a certain way, 'thinking' a certain way and even 'behaving' a certain way.  Seldom do we consider that we have options.

How often have you heard people say they 'can't' do this or they've 'always' done it 'that way'?  It's as if once they've made a decision, their minds become encased in concrete with no hope of escape.

I'm not saying you shouldn't be realistic about events and circumstances that shape your life, but you certainly don't have to let them change your personality or dictate how you show up in the world.

News flash!  Your thoughts do not control you.  YOU control your thoughts.  Take a risk.  Make yourself uncomfortable, especially with fearful thoughts.

Deliberately challenge a negative thought when it creeps in.  It can be 'scary' or it can be 'interesting'.  That depends entirely on the perspective you choose.

One of the pioneers in the study of mind power, John Kehoe, developed some great techniques for dealing with negative thought:

Cutting it off: when you think something negative, stop instantly and insert another thought (your mind can only think one thing at a time).

Labeling it: recognize it as a negative thought and call it that.

Exaggerate it into the ridiculous: make it absolutely absurd.  Play it out in your head to the point that it becomes cartoon-like (this is my personal favorite, by the way).

Counteract the negative with it's exact opposite: if you're thinking how horrible a thing is, change it to the best it could possibly be.

Recognize that you are the one choosing how you react.  Recognize, too, that's not comfortable...especially when it's easier to blame other people and circumstances.

Positive change rarely happens in our 'comfort zone'.  Growth only occurs outside of what we already know.

Are you 'scared' to try, or 'interested' in what might happen?

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One Response

  1. Ti Maze

    Look this article. Complacency can be our worse enemy. Versatility is optional, and perseverance is key to change.

    God Bless


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